So Who Are You?

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So Who Are You?
“So who are you anyway?”

Not – “Who were you?”

“Oh… you’re the guy that sits in that next table to us at the coffee shop…”

“You’re the guy that was at the wedding for my niece.”

“You’re the ‘Rev.’ that did my Nana’s funeral!”

“You’re the guy I saw on TV a few months ago.”

As retirement has come upon me I am different now. I am a ‘used to be’ – if I allow it. I am a ‘once was’ – if I pine for it. I am a ‘should have been’ – if I don’t stop that thinking.

And I could go on… and on.

Staying in what you used to be is not so good… in fact even down right dangerous. It is anything but healthy as we try to stay frozen in the past.

Jokingly I have developed a comment when I introduce myself. It is a great icebreaker. Here it is… “Hi my name is Murray and I am a recovering Minister.”

The typical person that I meet in the Mall stops and asks more. Some are recovering alcoholics and they have heard that intro many times before from fellow AA members at their weekly meeting. Recovering from the addiction is huge… and stating it out loud is even bigger.

I was a minister for 34 years in full time service. I was set free in 2008 when I stopped working in the church. But I am still a minister… just not doing that stuff anymore. Yet a part of me desires to go back and do it again… I shake a little and my body trembles as I consider the possibilities… then I walk away and say no… I can’t do that any more… I am free of that…. And my body trembles…

I am a recovering Minister… once addicted to the hours and the tasks at hand… now set free… kind of… and finding a whole new role.

Now that is only my situation… what about yours?

Kids are gone and some grand kids are now appearing… “I am a grandpa.”

Kids are gone and there are no grand kids yet… “I am an empty nester.”

My wife is dead… “I am a widower.”

“I am divorcee…”

“I am a…” (now you can put your own words in to the spot…)


~ Murray Lincoln ~
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