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Today’s Blog Post
“Can you believe it? My wife has Removed me and Blocked me on Facebook? I can’t believe it! She is my wife!” the shocked husband exclaimed to me in a near tears state.
What do you say to a man that is beside himself with worry? How do you counsel a man that is likely facing a reality that his wife is running away on him with one of her friends on Facebook. Talk about insecurity! Talk about anguish of the soul!
More and more I am hearing about difficulties experienced in family life where one of the couple has entered into other arrangements with another person through the use of their computer. Online dating companies are not new… but the use of a Social Network like Facebook has a new trend from what I have witnessed.
“What do you see Murray?” one person asked.
I see open flirting and then eventually a new relationship that is built.
I have seen a few of these develop into full blown affairs with the spouse looking on. Really? Yep! And in one situation the new couple that are getting it off are both “christian” – the kind of “christian” that would never do something like that. In fact one part of that particular “affair” regularly writes about “Christianity”!! (Nope I didn’t make a mistake with the lower case “c” and the upper case “C”.)
In the good old days people in church usually snuck off to a motel room with another congregant, hiding their affair until Sister Biddy announced it one day.
Now adultery is more fun… almost an “Amusement Park” kind of fun… where the husband can look on while the wife rides in her new fling!
Sorry if that sounds crude by your standards. But it is really happening. The wife flirts and even carries on the affair in full view of the husband and her friends watching!
That is the part that is so weird. The friends on Facebook can view what other friends are saying and commenting on yet other friend’s Facebook posting.
“Friends” are actually enabling the affair by knowing and not saying or doing something about it! You would think that good friends would speak up.
The on-looking friends are likely getting it off, having a secondary affair through their own friend’s affair. Really! Why else would they condone what is happening!?
A young man I know is selling his car in St. John’s Newfoundland… and people all over the place are commenting on the vehicle… how good it is.. why he is selling it etc. I clicked on a read it all.
Why? I need another car desperately… maybe this is the one… yet with one click I read what the other folks are saying… another click and I can find out who they are… and where they live… and if they have an open information page.. get their email address and find out more about them… even contacting them personally!!!
So… take the “christian lady” that writes “christian stuff”.. someone reads it… gets to her Facebook Page… connects via email… then before you know it she is in another city doing “ministry”. And before you know it there is a full blown affair going on… BUT… in the new world it is classier than that… it is a new relationship??!
If you caught all that – it was like changing shoes!
Most of the cultural norms that were there before have been reduced to another level with the advent of our openness. So has morality.
In Facebook, if you are not a user, you will see – or rather be able to – tell your friends what you are interested in. For an example, Hot Rods, Trains etc. Many folks that I click on to state quite openly, that they are interested in people of the opposite sex… i.e. a married man will state openly that he is interested in females!!!
It was announced yesterday that Facebook is able to rather accurately predict the potential breakups in couples by the posts that they make… and the fact that they have tracked who has broken up. This was formulated in a large study… where they recorded when the breakups took place.
Before Spring Break and Christmas was the highest times a breakup took place. And then Mondays were the predictable day of the week that it happened as well. See the Links below for more info on this new information released.
No I am not against Facebook! I find it an amazing tool to connect with Friends from all over.
But I have witnessed a brand new change in society. I have watched as the old Christian world has take on a new “christian” standard.. or maybe have dropped it entirely.
I am amazed at what I am watching and engaging….
For what it is worth... my two cents worth.
~ Murray Lincoln ~
http://www.murraylincoln.com/
Source:
http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2372086,00.asp
http://theweek.com/article/index/203122/can-facebook-predict-your-breakup
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